I have a practical question here, what am I supposed to wear under my dress? Lacy underwear... Spanx...
The big dilemma is my dress has a sheer back so I can't have a bra, but would still like some extra oomph and support, would stick on-cups be a total mistake? I envision sweating and them falling out, or something equally horrifying.
Here's a pic of my dress on someone else (reckon she went bra-less?)
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I kinda think you have to go sans bra.
(Which, that bride is juuuuuuuust pushing the envelope. I hope your boobs are small!)
Take the dress to a specialty store and get help with your undergarments from a professional. Have some one snap pictures so you can see what lines are created. It is your day to glow, not the day to worry if you tits are hanging out or your ass is saggy. It will be worth it.
ReplyDeleteYes, tailors can sew in cups for you. If you're dancing hard, your boobs might not stay in them but at least your nipples won't bleed from rubbing on the mesh lining of the dress all day, and the cups should provide a little support and help to keep things where they should be.
DeleteYes! Your alteration shop can put in a bra for you. had this done for my wedding, it was great! I've actually had it done to other cocktail dresses since!
DeleteYes, I had cups sewn in too (otherwise my nipples would totally have shown through my dress and I figured that would be distracting). Just make sure you find a good seamstress.
DeleteI was originally going with a stick on bra (Nubra), which I actually like using with strapless dresses. But when I took the dress in to get it hemmed my tailor convinced me that I didn't want to be wearing a stick on bra for that many hours. She was right.
Also, good god, your dress is gorgeous!
DeleteI agree. Have a seamstress sew cups in and you won't have to worry about anything. And yes, I am terribly jealous of your dress.
DeleteI too wore a Jenny Packham dress and my seamstress sewed cups into the dress.
DeleteWhat about this backless, frontless thingy? I can't say I've tried it myself, but it might be worth buying one to take along to a dress fitting and returning if it doesn't work. I can't believe I'm about to suggest this, but you could also try those clear plastic bra straps with it. Everytime I see someone ruining a strapless top by wearing a bra with those plastic straps under it I want to shout "I CAN SEE YOUR STRAPS, THEY ARE NOT INVISIBLE" at them and then ping the straps for good measure. But under the detailed sheer sleeves of this dress, the eye might be tricked into not noticing them.
ReplyDeleteFailing that, a good seamstress might be able to sew cups into the dress if you feel you would like a little extra support/nipple blockage.
Fab dress! Stick on moulded cups work for me (DD-sized) so that i at least have some support. I think that would be your best bet if you wanted to wear something underneath. But I would make reeeally sure that they're completely invisible underneath the dress in the front as well. And please dont do plastic bra straps.
ReplyDeleteHave your seamstress sew cups into the dress. She/he should be able to do it such that you will not see the cups from the front. This may require some additional internal structure work and thus may be a tad expensive, but it solves the problem.
ReplyDeleteI would go braless (and will be with my own wedding dress), but I'm also an A-cup planning a brunch reception.
ReplyDeleteIf your reception will be more of a throw-your-hands-in-the-air-like-you-just-don't-care event, get the stick-on cups or change dresses (and presumably put on a bra) for the reception like the bride on 100LC did.
Another vote for getting cups sewn in, if braless is not gonna do it. I had cups sewn into my dress that has a sheer back and it worked wonderfully, although the seamstress has to be really particular about the positioning of the cups so that they look natural and unnoticeable.
ReplyDeleteI had the same problem - my back was full lace. I was worried about stick on cups getting sweaty and falling off too, but I chanced it with the kind that stick to the sides of you, underneath your armpit. They are MAGIC! You can get them at Nordstroms. I still wear them after my wedding with casual clothing, they're so comfortable.
ReplyDeletei would think that the nubra would work perfectly. my BFF has DDs and wears it all the time. including sweaty summer parties. http://www1.macys.com/buy/nubra
ReplyDeletei am blown away by the idea that ladies w/ DDs actually wear such things. i have learned something today.
DeleteI bought this nubra, and after one wear it's completely lost it's sticky (and I'm a 34C, not especially large chested). they're expensive too, I wouldn't bother. For my wedding day, I got the same bra Shannon is describing above. It's sticky all over, buit the way it's designed, it mostly relies on the part under your arm to stay up. Worked out perfectly for me, and after several wears it still works well. Suck it, nubra!
DeleteThis is a fucking revelation. I always assumed sticky bras were the domain of women who didn't really need a bra anyways.
DeleteI've got that, and while it's never fallen off, it's just that not supportive. No, you can't see my nipples, but I'd rather find a different solution than wear this again. Oh, and I'm a 34D for comparison.
DeleteI wore a Nubra under my wedding dress and ended up sweating it off on the dance floor and ditching it behind a plant when no one was (hopefully) looking. I ended the night braless, which isn't a huge deal because i'm an A cup. But I did get a few weird pictures back with a 4 boob-look happening before I realized it had melted down to my belly button.
ReplyDeleteI think you'll be fine with a Nubra as long as you don't plan on a marathon dance session at the end of the night.
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ReplyDeleteI bought the Target version of Nubra in a pinch for like 20 bucks right before a Christmas party, and it stayed on perfectly, even through sweaty dancing. Plus I was really comfortable. I am also only an A cup, so I'd figure that makes a difference. Give it a test-run on a night out to see if it'd work for you.
ReplyDeleteI'd say go sans bra, but something to keep in mind if you are hiring a photographer: I went without a bra or panties and when the time came during the "getting ready" photo shoot, with all my gals around, and for some reason a ton of other people to zip me into my dress I finally had to announce "I'm going to be stark ass naked here for a bit." A funny moment, but something to keep in mind.
ReplyDeleteI did the sticky bra and it was great, but my dress was supportive and the only reason i needed it was because the tools that altered my dress were imperfect. . . um. . . . it sucked to pull off at the end of the night and did a really fucking weird thing to my boob which seemed to be a turn off for the man. . . he got over it
ReplyDeleteI wore a very similar Jenny Packham dress for my wedding in December, and I am a DD. I tried the NuBra, I talked with the seamstress about sewing cups in, but when it came down to it, everyone agreed that I looked best sans bra. I think Jenny really designs this style of dress to be worn without a bra. The NuBra pulled my boobs together in a way that was totally unflattering and didn't work with the fit of the bodice, and the bodice on mine was sheer enough that you could see a slight color difference and fabric difference where the bra was underneath. I would definitely recommend going braless, and wearing commando top hats or low beams. I also wore spanx shorts with mine, but I was careful to pick one that didn't come too high in the back.
ReplyDeleteso basically what you're saying is ESB WAS RIGHT ALL ALONG?
Delete@ esb - You win this round, hippie.
Delete@Rachel not that i *ever* would take these DDs braless. not anymore.
DeleteThis precise dilemma is why I didn't go with a Jenny Packham dress. I looove my built-in bustier!
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