Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Inapropro Bridesmaid


Hi ESB-

So, I told all of my bridesmaids to just wear a black dress for the wedding to keep things simple (and so that they could wear the dress again). Also, we are all New Yorkers and black is kind of our uniform. This morning one of my bridesmaids sent me this, and asked my opinion.

Now, I'm no prude, and I want my girls to feel beautiful, but we will all be taking family photos (including my 95-year-old grandpa), and the ceremony is not going to be at a club- it's a garden wedding at 5pm at an antique-but-formal estate in upstate New York. I picked the only 3 dresses without cut-outs to send her, and am hoping for the best. 

Am I crazy? Or are these kind of sexy for a wedding? Which would you choose?

-Hoping grandpa doesn't have a stroke

*****

How old is your bridesmaid? FIFTEEN??

Call me a pissy thirtysomething, but none of these dresses are appropriate for a wedding.

Images courtesy of Nasty Gal
Posted by esb at 9:03 AM

48 comments:

  1. andeeSeptember 11, 2012 at 9:06 AM

    Just to reassure that these are inappropriate; when I clicked the link while at work the filter (baracuda) blocked it as porn. Just saying.

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    1. esbSeptember 11, 2012 at 9:08 AM

      That's what the bride should have said!! "I couldn't follow the link. Did you send me PORN?"

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  2. AnonymousSeptember 11, 2012 at 9:08 AM

    Maybe this was a joke? I mean the link is called Nasty Gal.

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  3. KatieSeptember 11, 2012 at 9:10 AM

    and she wasn't joking? yikes! not appropriate.

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  4. nikkiSeptember 11, 2012 at 9:13 AM

    bahahaha

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  5. AnonymousSeptember 11, 2012 at 9:17 AM

    Anything named "Nasty Gal" should be banned .... your bridesmaid can be a porn starlet, hoochie mama, skank, sleaze, harlot or whatever else she wants to be on another day.

    This is a wedding, not an audition, nor a contest for who can look fast/cheap/easy/horrifying.

    And that you even chose from the options is pretty damn scary. Who's driving the bus here?

    Please send your bridesmaids some links that clearly define "appropriate" and what you would like to see at your wedding.

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  6. AnonymousSeptember 11, 2012 at 9:20 AM

    Thanks guys. I love this blog. Y'all make this process so much more amusing. (And no, she wasn't kidding)

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  7. VanessaSeptember 11, 2012 at 9:24 AM

    Those are some skanky dresses! But the "hashtag sweetheart dress" might be okay.

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  8. AnonymousSeptember 11, 2012 at 9:34 AM

    agreed Vanessa, the "hashtag sweetheart dress" *might* be the only acceptable dress for a wedding in the bunch.

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  9. AnonymousSeptember 11, 2012 at 9:35 AM

    what are you talking about? this one is totally fine.

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  10. MiriamSeptember 11, 2012 at 9:42 AM

    What even is that site? A ModCloth for those who prefer "put a cutout on it" to "put a bird on it"?

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  11. Ms DictatorSeptember 11, 2012 at 9:43 AM

    Is it a nightclub wedding in Vegas?

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  12. 17 beats.September 11, 2012 at 10:05 AM

    Let her pick which ever one suits her fancy, and then tell her the wedding is a week later than it actually is.

    i can't believe the website is called NASTY GAL.

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  13. AnonymousSeptember 11, 2012 at 10:06 AM

    I see a pattern arising, it always seems that those who ask their bridesmaids to choose a dress always end up with either:

    a) bridesmaids squabbling over who will look the prettiest
    b) bridesmaids can't make up their mind
    b) bridesmaids picking out dresses you don't like

    Pick a nice black dress for each of them, tell them you've found one you really like so their dress is sorted and tick it off your list.

    I say this now (with respect of course) because it's pretty obvious your bridesmaid has not got a single clue.

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    1. AnonymousSeptember 11, 2012 at 10:07 AM

      Hah, fuck, now it looks like I don't know the alphabet.

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  14. StefanieSeptember 11, 2012 at 10:08 AM

    You are being a gracious and reasonable bride by telling your BMs they can wear any black dress they choose. Therefore, you are still being gracious and reasonable if you veto dresses they choose that are wildly inappropriate. Send her a few links to dresses that you actually like that you think she may as well (not from a site that can be mistaken for porn) and maybe she'll get the hint. I'd say also tell all the BMs that you'd like to have ultimate veto-power over their dress choices--still gracious and reasonable!

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  15. StefSeptember 11, 2012 at 11:00 AM

    Maybe she's been watching too much Son's of Anarchy? This looks like the guest list at Opie's wedding.

    Really though, even the 3 slightly decent dresses from that site are still either skanky short or skanky tight. Maybe she's joking. One of them found the site then they all passed it around with a "let's mess with her a little!" message.

    I would have pretty much ignored her link and replied with a link to another site w/ better options.

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    1. esbSeptember 11, 2012 at 11:01 AM

      should i be watching that? somebody told me to watch that.

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    2. FrancesSeptember 11, 2012 at 11:22 AM

      You should watch it. Drea de Matteo and Katey Sagal! Complex lady characters! Hot scuzzy bikers!

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    3. esbSeptember 11, 2012 at 11:28 AM

      hot + scuzzy is how i like it

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    4. H.H.September 11, 2012 at 11:30 AM

      the show is excellent

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    5. 17 beats.September 11, 2012 at 1:03 PM

      THIS GUY.

      (is on the show.)



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    6. esbSeptember 11, 2012 at 1:05 PM

      BIKER BRAD PITT


      i'm in.

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    7. stefSeptember 12, 2012 at 12:37 PM

      Uh yes, you should all be watching. I have like.. borderline inappropriate feelings for/crushes on Jax and Opie and should probably stop watching because I find myself totally being all "yeah I could live this lifestyle!"

      Bottom line - SO GOOD

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    8. unfounddoorSeptember 12, 2012 at 2:22 PM

      DVDs ordered on the strength of these recommendations...

      Though it'll take a lot of hot scuzziness to change the fact that Charlie Hunnam is and will always be Nathan in Queer As Folk to me.

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  16. MouseSeptember 11, 2012 at 11:03 AM

    HAHAHAHA

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    1. H.H.September 11, 2012 at 11:27 AM

      ^ this is how my reply email to her would have started & finished

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  17. callieSeptember 11, 2012 at 11:26 AM

    oh man, I really needed a laugh this morning. this was perf.

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  18. H.H.September 11, 2012 at 11:30 AM

    i don't hate nasty gal. in the depths of a desperate internet search for a "different" dress i've been known to cruise their site. but NEVER for a 5pm garden wedding, those dresses aren't even close to appropriate.

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  19. AnonymousSeptember 11, 2012 at 11:34 AM

    Okay, so these dresses are cray cray. But are they similar to things your bridesmaid usually wears? Did you foresee her picking something like this? Or is this totally out of left field for her?

    What I mean to say is, I am also letting my bridesmaids wear whatever they want-- not even limiting them by color. And I know that doing so is giving them the authority to pick something THEY like, which in some cases, will not be something I like. I have one bridesmaid with a much different fashion sense from mine-- I would not often emulate her fashion choices, but I understand that they are HER choices. So she will probably pick something that she loves and which makes her feel great and even if it is a burlap sack (not out of the question for this one) I will probably be too busy/happy getting married to care one way or the other.

    I'm just saying that you can dress your bridesmaids or tell them to dress themselves. But I'm not sure you can tell them to dress themselves and then dictate their choices, even if they are bizarre. Granted, she's asking for your opinion, so I guess its fair game, but maybe let her wear the cray cray dominatrix dress if that's what blows her skirt up?

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    1. ElizabethSeptember 12, 2012 at 8:01 PM

      I had the same question. Does this woman normally wear cut-out sheer dresses? If she does, then you should have anticipated this before giving her carte blanche. Props to her for asking for your feedback-- speak up and tell her exactly what you want, or give her a shawl for the day-of.

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  20. LaurenSeptember 11, 2012 at 12:18 PM

    And this is why I had my sister/MOH choose the bridesmaid dresses. This is the type of thing that my SIL would have chosen for herself. And no, she's not 15.

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  21. AlineSeptember 11, 2012 at 12:20 PM

    My first thought was that she was joking.

    I had a very relaxed wedding, and asked my friend's son to be the ring bearer. When my friend (his mother) asked me what he should wear, I sent her a picture of the most horrendous little boy outfit - it was a 70's aberration in brown with a frilly yellow shirt and long socks... She said she had to check with her co-workers to make sure it was indeed a joke. Then she called me to make sure.

    In one hand, people sometimes lose all common-sense when it comes to a wedding (which seems to be the case with your BM). In the other hand, people who are taking the whole thing very seriously can sometimes not get the joke...

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  22. ShiraSeptember 11, 2012 at 2:36 PM

    Unless you're getting married in a nightclub, music thump thump thumping around you, a dress from a site called "Nasty Girl" is not appropriate.

    I told my 2 bridesmaids to wear whatever they wanted to my garden wedding (just no red, orange or yellow) - they both ended up lovely wearing black dresses. It's as if we'd planned it! Everytime I read this blog I realize how lucky I was.

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  23. AmySeptember 11, 2012 at 4:13 PM

    Cannot believe a clothing company snatched up that domain name before a porn site got it.

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  24. AGSeptember 11, 2012 at 6:48 PM

    Only if they walk down the aisle to this.

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  25. AnonymousSeptember 11, 2012 at 10:50 PM

    Collectively, they look quite inappropriate, but I think there are a few really pretty ones! Like this one, for example

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  26. AlyciaSeptember 12, 2012 at 5:39 AM

    My goodness, did you look at the swimsuits?! You can have a lion one piece for only $315! But the intimate section is surprisingly tame.

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  27. LPCSeptember 12, 2012 at 7:24 AM

    I'd email her back and say, "I'd love to see the matching skirts with these tops."

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  28. RachelSeptember 12, 2012 at 9:17 AM

    For everyone who adorably thinks Nasty Gal is a niche pornwear site... yes, not untrue, but you'll be pleased to know it's also the fastest-growing retailer in the country.

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  29. KelsiSeptember 12, 2012 at 12:51 PM

    I see two of Stevie Nicks' nightgowns, and two streetwalker dresses.

    So, no.

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  30. AnonymousSeptember 12, 2012 at 7:31 PM

    The BM asked for your opinion, so you get to say no.

    Really, was that hard?

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