i had my final dress fitting at my seamstress' house, tried my dress on for my grandma and mom, was totally happy with it, paid for the alterations and took my dress home. the next day, at work, i receive this e-mail from my mom:
"Regarding your wedding dress, your Grandmother was saying that she thought it was way too tight up at the top - she was really surprised about it, and actually I was sort of too. I wish she had spoken up during the fitting. It seems VERY tight under your arm pits and in the back, to the point where your flesh is hanging over somewhat. I don't think it's you having gained weight or anything, but I think the seamstress must have misjudged and took it in too much. Is it comfortable? Are you sure you don't want to have it let out just a little at the top?"
YOUR FLESH IS HANGING OVER SOMEWHAT.
these are not words that anyone ever wants to read in an e-mail, especially when it's about your wedding dress, a week before your wedding. family is supposed to have your back, not your back fat. and speak up at the dang dress fitting -- that's what they're for!
if bridey looked in the mirror and was happy, there's no problem. I'm sure she looked at the back and had no problem with it. unless the bride is LITERALLY BLIND, why would this email be relevant AT ALL?!
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if the bride tries the dress on again and feels fine with the level of "flesh" hanging off the side then don't alter it. if she realizes she didn't see that and now it bothers her...just go back to the seamstress. but yes, ESB is right. um.....you tell her NOW????
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ReplyDeleteThis happened to me and all of my wedding guests, old and young alike, thought I was so original and cute for wearing a cardigan at my reception. My mom did speak up at the fitting, but at that point there wasn't much fabric to let out, so when I picked up the dress, it was about the same.
ReplyDeleteThis really puts the F in WTF.
ReplyDeleteThis made barf rise up in the back if my throat because my mother is famous for suddenly being bothered by things exactly after the point of no return.
ReplyDeleteAmazing description. And my mom too. GODDAMMIT, MOM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
DeleteIt would have killed me if someone had said this to me a week before my wedding! Bless you, anonymous bride, for not going all kung-fu on them for this. You perhaps have more class/restraint than I...
ReplyDeletedo you love it?? thats the only thing matters..
ReplyDeletezone out of the nonsense girl!! too bad that mom is saying such stuff :( .. lesson ladies.. be better moms.. i hope i am when its time!!
My mom told the seamstress not to make the adjustments my sister requested behind her back. Come wedding day, my sister is confused why her seamstress didn't change anything and her dress feels loose. Yes, I really hope I learn from my mom's insanity.
ReplyDeleteMy skirt was definitely still way too loose after alterations, but the seamstress wasn't present at the fitting and the personal shopper refused to admit it. So my skirt was way too loose on my wedding day and I can't stand to look at up-close photos (it is a trumpet skirt, so it's supposed to be somewhat form-fitting). I even tried to gain weight to try to make it fit better.
ReplyDeleteAnyhow, I'm sure this bride actually looks great in her dress. My mom always thinks everything is too tight, so maybe it's a generational thing?
There is a reason many girls take their closest (and brutally honest) gf's to fittings with them. Sometimes family don't want to offend you whereas a true friend will level with you. I'm one of those "sorry to have to tell you but..." brutally honest friends and have been to many dress fittings with friends, the bright side is when I say "it's perfect" and have a tear in my eye, they know that it comes from the heart.
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