b) Do you plan to stop reading the blog after yesterday's incredibly insensitive dig at the homeless?
Just kidding.
If you don't have a sense of humor you shouldn't be here anyway.
Here's the question:
Is this dress too white to wear as a guest to a wedding?
(I have an opinion, but it's not a very firm one.)
I said "nay" but probably depends on the bride.
ReplyDeleteOh, I meant yay? I was answering the question before the photo - not the question above the poll.
Deleteoops i did that too, but the other way around, so we cancel each other out. phew.
Deleteshitballz, i phrased the question both ways, didn't i? let me adjust.
DeleteI say if you have the slightest inclination that you'll feel awkward then don't wear it. I had not one but two people wear white at my wedding. I didn't freak out, just thought it was weird however it's up to the bride and how zilla she is.
ReplyDeleteI said "yeah" meaning that it would be too white for me to wear to a wedding, but people wore white to mine and I didn't mind.
ReplyDeleteIf you team it with darker accessories or non bridal accessories then I think it has potential. Perhaps with a dark coloured blazer?
ReplyDeleteIT WAS THE DIALOGUE THAT WAS FUNNY.
ReplyDeleteAnd I just don't like the dress.
I think if you have to ask you prob shouldn't wear it. You'll be too paranoid, even if the bride doesn't care.
ReplyDeletei said YAY but ONLY if you are not comfortable just asking the bride. a lot of ppl are FINE with it, so i normally wouldn't give a flat out no, but if you don't want to ask, better safe than sorry.
ReplyDeleteSeconded.
Deleteoh, also- Just remembered my sister in law wore a similar peachy colored dress to my wedding and I didn't notice/ care (thought it was cute), but she said other people gave her grief over it. Just fiy.
ReplyDeleteI just bought a cream coloured dress to wear to a friends wedding. It's knee length and I'm wearing dark tights and a coloured belt. I don't think anyone will mistake me for the bride! The whole no white or black at weddings is pretty old fashioned. As long as you don't show up in a veil I reckon you're ok!
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I think it's tacky to wear just about anything in the white, light nude, blush spectrum to a wedding. Everybody knows that most brides are wearing white on their wedding day, so why oh why would you want to be the only other person in the room wearing a "bridal" color? Even if the bride wouldn't care about something like that, I think it makes the wearer look desperate. The only exception is if you have some kind of very non bridal sweater or jacket that in a real color and you're not going to take it off all night. Harumph!
ReplyDeleteagree
DeleteI don't think it's that easy to find a good outfit for a wedding so when I found a cream/peachy dress I liked I bought it. I'm in no way desperate or attention seeking. I'm getting married next year so I'm not trying to look like or show up the bride, I'm just wearing a party dress to a wedding that listed cocktail attire
DeleteWell shoot. I answered 'Nay' as in 'Don't wear it' while others answer 'Nay' as in 'Not a problem to wear it.' Looks like that poll won't be very helpful!
ReplyDeleteSame. I answered NAY = don't wear it. Then the question got rephrased, and I can't resubmit my vote. Oh well.
DeleteI FUCKED UP OKAY???
DeleteJeez.
I'll add you guys to the YEAH total.
I think it's just plain rude to wear white or any shade in the neutral color palate to a wedding. Even if the bride says she doesn't care deep down she dose. I've heard more then one bride tell the person they didn't mind the color of the dress but to closer friends say it bothered them. And like mentioned before if you have to ask you should NOT wear it.
ReplyDeleteI had a few girls who wore white to my wedding, could have cared less... Think it depends on the person.
DeleteI can't even remember what people wore at my wedding. Honestly, all I remember is their smiles. I guess there was at least ONE bride who didn't care deep down. :)
DeleteIt's pink enough. Just be sure to accessorize it with colorful, not-at-all bridal jewelry and shoes.
ReplyDeleteone of my best friends wore cream to my wedding and i didn't even notice. it wasn't until i was back home after my honeymoon that another friend pointed it out and was like "i thought that was weird." it still doesn't bother me, but in terms of myself i would now NEVER wear cream to a wedding because i wouldn't want any of the other guests to think it was weird (because the bride is usually enjoying herself too much to notice).
ReplyDeleteI think colour-wise, it's fine if you found some non-bridal accessories to go with it. But the dress itself? Meh.
ReplyDeleteI say it's okay - I mean, really...it's barely in the white family! BUT if the bride is wearing something less white/bridal than that dress then it might be terrible. Tricky tricky.
ReplyDeletethrow up some examples of all those "non-bridal" accessories you all keep talking about.
ReplyDeleteAm I weird or does this look not just off-white but also fairly bridal? I say play it safe and don't wear it.
ReplyDeleteFWIW - I have no issue with black at weddings that are in the evening and I frequently wear it. But I still think wearing white or anything in the white family is a little risky unless you KNOW the bride won't care.
And ESB, you know you are one of my very favorite assholes.
Speaking of what to wear to a wedding... could we please please pretty please with cherries on top have an ESB-approved guide to shopping for guest attire? I feel like I'm drowning in ShopBob and Nordstrom search results... and I trust this crowd's judgement. Even just some direction in terms of interesting designers/new lines to watch would be extremely useful.
ReplyDeletePlease? Pretty please?
Please don't go anywhere or change. I'm sick to death of the handwringing and sanctimony of the other "non-mainstream" wedding blogs.
ReplyDeleteYou're my snarky savior!
one of my guests bought a white dress to wear to my wedding then texted me and asked if it was okay, but phrased it as if she was just curious about protocol, not actually planning on it. I laughed at her, sms style, so she dyed it...ivory.
ReplyDeleteI probably wouldn't give a shit if she didn't annoy me in so many other ways by being generally obtuse and self centered.
so I guess what I'm saying is, defying social graces are a good way to get deeper in trouble with people when you're already on the edge, most minor infractions are otherwise forgettable.
but I did vote yeah.
i'm saying 'no', just because i'm imagining it paired with an appropriate cardigan. and i'm imagining it at a very low-key, chilled-out, casual wedding, with a really chilled-out bride.
ReplyDeleteborderline, but it's more of a peachy nude than white. I'd say it depends on the bride.
ReplyDeleteThat dress looks peach, not white, to me. Pastels are totally appropriate for warm weather weddings. I am someone who would have cared if a guest had worn white/ivory to my wedding, and that dress would not have bothered me. I think if a bride decides to wear a non-white dress (blush, peach, grey, whatever) she gives up the right to be upset if someone is wearing the same color because how are the guests supposed to know?
ReplyDeleteeh, guests should wear what they want to a wedding. so long as you don't accidentally walk up the aisle and marry the groom, no one will mistake you for the bride.
ReplyDeletehaha! agreed
DeleteI voted "yeah" but I don't suppose you can go look at it in person (not familiar with that store). It looks way peachier in the first shot on the web site than it does in the model pic...
ReplyDeleteHow dressy is the wedding? If it seems like it will be dressy (i.e. the bride will be wearing a gown), this is fine. But if you get the vibe that this will be an at all casual wedding, wear something else. My wedding was pretty casual - I wore a vintage ivory cocktail dress. One friend of mine wore a very pretty gold cocktail dress and a feather fascinator to my wedding, and while I wasn't annoyed at her - some of my friends were annoyed that she might be "upstaging me".
ReplyDeletei can't even read that comment thread. i want to punch them all in the face
ReplyDeletei think if you're asking the question "is this too white...?" it IS too white.
ReplyDeleteThat is exactly what I was going to say!
ReplyDeleteWorse than someone wearing white is the friend who asks what the bridesmaids are wearing so she can intentionally match them...yeah, that happened.
ReplyDeleteI voted yeah, but I also balk when people don't wear black (or at least dark and muted tones) to funerals. I also frown on black at weddings if the ceremony starts before sundown. So take that for what you will.
ReplyDeleteif you did wear that dress
ReplyDeletehahaha! yes.
DeleteSOMEONE is probably going to care. It could be the bride, it could be her grandma, it could be the groom's boss's wife. While I don't usually care about what other people think of me, that day is about other people and I'm just there to celebrate. Why risk even the smallest bit of drama when you could just find another dress?
ReplyDeleteLike this or any number of the other longer, flowey, vintage inspired dresses that are ALL OVER Zara, H&M, and Asos. Also, this dress is cheaper than the Oasis one.
DeleteI think it's safest just to not go there, in any neutral/pale color. What if the bride's dress is cream, ivory, light grey...? I showed up to a wedding accidentally matching the bridesmaids once, and that was awkward enough. At the most recent wedding I went to, an invited guest's date showed up in a flowy ivory skirt, white halter top, a pearl necklace and a huge silk flower/feather thing in her hair. It just looked so tacky, like she was trying to upstage the bride. There are plenty of cute, more colorful dresses out there; I don't get when people deliberately choose something that's "on the fence" and then worry about whether it's appropriate.
ReplyDeleteReally? This dress is pink. Light, pastel pink. Are we going to ban light pastel colors at weddings just in case the bride is crazy and slightly color blind? Maybe the new etiquette should state that guests all wear jewel tones so as not to run the risk of the bride having palpitations?
ReplyDeleteI agree with someone above who said this dress does also seem sort of bridal....and I think it's just a little too close to white. It might not be the bride that cares, but there may be a more traditional family member that won't appreciate it and you'll be talked about as "the girl that wore cream to a wedding". Just buy a blue dress already.
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