Dear ESB,
So, it's not like I waited for all this to happen and then email you. Nope, it all happened yesterday. I'll start off with the fun:
SHOES
I'm wearing this dress (front, back). I'm in love with it. If possible, I'm in love with the shoes equally as much. So, our wedding venue is an art studio loft space on the top floor of a building in Washington DC. I recently discovered there is access to the roof via a ladder that looks like this. Clearly, I want pictures on the roof, there are views of the Capitol, Washington Monument, etc. But, definitely won't be walking up that ladder in heels. I found these for ladder climbing and beyond. I love them, so do my MOH and BM. Problem being, FH doesn't like them, but says I'll be gorgeous no matter what, plus, the dress covers the shoes. I'm leaning towards not getting them, advice?
GUEST LIST
I own my house, I have two roommates. One I love, one I don't. The one I don't is moving out 3 months earlier than I planned for. Which equates to nearly $2K in losses. I'm happy to have her go, but worried about money, and what that means for wedding budget (we're paying for it ourselves). I would give it a 95% chance I will not see said roommate in the 3 months between my wedding and when she moves out. Before I felt obligated to invite her. But, does this get me off the hook?
MOVING IN
So, why not have FH move in? I'm actually surprised how unopposed I am to having him move in 3 months early. But, I'm worried that my motivations for this are purely financial, which makes me think this is a bad idea. Then there's all the stuff you learn about each other when you move in, and we'd be doing that with a roommate instead (who we both love, but still). Should we just save that for marriage, or does it not really matter in the scheme of things? If he moved in, he'd live in the open room, not mine. (We're both church-going, religious, and virgins -- and intend to stay that way.) Then there's the stigma at church -- but I don't *think* I care about that too much. We both feel the same way about this, sort of unsure, sort of surprised by thinking it would be okay.
OH, and about halfway through engagement my parents told us they are getting a divorce (after 29 years) and my dad cheated on my mom. That shattered all kinds of things in my heart. Still trying to figure out what, if any, part my dad plays in the wedding. But, that's a whole other email I suppose.
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1. I'm more concerned about you climbing the ladder in THAT DRESS than in the heels.
2. Yes.
3. Move him in. The sooner the better. Maybe it's not ideal for you to learn all the he-throws-his-dirty-socks-on-the-floor-and-leaves-his-mustache-trimmings-in-the-sink stuff with a roommate, but better now than after you get married.
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That dress is a knock-out, but I don't see it ending well if you try to climb a damn ladder in it.
ReplyDeleteAs for the moving in together bit, DO IT. The transition may be rough; it's not exactly fun to learn just how gross your dude will let his stuff/home get, but you either learn it now and save some $$ or you learn it three months later. It's gonna be the same story either way. Might as well save a little cash in the process of learning ALL about his homemaking ways.
Besides, it sounds like you're dealing with a ton of unfortunate family stuff right now. Wouldn't it be nice to have him close, as in under the same roof close, while you're dealing with all the emotional heartache AND planning a wedding?
1. Don't get a new pair of shoes just to climb a ladder. Wear flip flops or go barefoot, then carry your actual wedding shoes.
ReplyDelete2. Nope, F that noise. Don't invite her.
3. Have him move in. You don't have to have sexy times just because he lives with you. And, from experience, if your dad is doing a lot to estrange himself from your family, having a good shoulder to cry on helps a bundle.
gorgeous dress, I'd go with the idea of flip flops... just during the ladder!!
ReplyDeleteagree with esb and others...
ReplyDeletealso, damn. that dress is LOW. gorgeous, but low. am i alone in wondering how close it lies to the crack?
I agree with @Sarah.
ReplyDeleteAnd I'll add: My mom cheated on my dad, and they divorced when I was a sophomore in college. A few months later, she married the guy she cheated on my dad with. Since then, my mom and I have had a VERY strained relationship. During the divorce, some eight years ago, (I think) that time in my life is a blur, because it was so stressful and sad... anyway: During that time, my sister and I carried each other through it. My dad was bonkers - can you blame him? - and I couldn't have gotten through it without my sister. My dad has since moved on and remarried, just this summer! He found love again with his high-school sweetheart, and we all adore her. So, there was a happy ending for him!
My husband's parents divorced when he was very young. Not sure which is worse, I would say: Divorced parents at a young age is worse. At least I saw many "happy" years of marriage between my parents AND, at 20, I was old enough to understand what was happening and why... but if anything I believe being a child of divorce forces you to DO WHATEVER IT TAKES to defend your marriage, honor your spouse and NOT END UP LIKE "THEM." Just my two cents. Also: My husband and I did "pre-marriage counseling" where we talked about our fucked up parents and their shitty-ass marriages. GOOD LUCK!
Your dress is drop-dead gorgeous. Be careful on that ladder, girl! xo.
keep in mind that some preachers won't marry you if they know you're living together (even if it is in separate rooms). My husband and I ran into the exact same thing. There was a major problem with where i was living and i had to move ASAP, and had very little money. the only solution was to move into his rented house which had three bedrooms and only he and a roomy living in it. the problem is that "best friend roomy" worked at the church and went and told the preacher who was supposed to conduct the ceremony. long story short we had to get someone else to do it. Just something to consider. But if that isn’t an issue- know that my husband and I (both church goers etc.) didn’t have a problem with it and everything worked out fine- though it did add to the difficulties of staying true to our…ehem…white wedding.
ReplyDeleteHe'll be learning a lot about you by seeing you in that dress anyway! Why not live together pre-wedding, too.
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ReplyDeleteto quote McMahon "Hey-O!!"
My husband and I lived together before we got married, with roommates for a while and then by ourselves for a while too. It was great. We hashed out the dirty details of cohabitation BEFORE marriage. We fought and we figured it out. And now we're married and we barely ever argue and our marriage has been LOVELY!!
ReplyDeleteSo, I vote for moving him in.
Don't invite the old roomie.
Don't buy the second pair of shoes- just hoof it up that ladder barefoot and be careful.
No new shoes. No flip flops (that shit's dangerous). Barefoot or sneakers that you already own.
ReplyDeleteLOVE your dress. I'm a little jealous that I can't wear it myself.
ReplyDeleteThere's no way in hell I could shack up with my fiance and still keep my hands to myself. If you have the kind of self control that you can live together and still stick to your conviction (specifically, not sleeping together), then I say go for it.
Man, you virgins really know how to sex it up.
ReplyDeleteAlso, agree with Maddie on the shoes. But sneakers are your best bet. Switch them up once you're up there.
ReplyDeleteYOW ! that dress is SEXY !
ReplyDeleteI take it that the roommate moving out 3 months early never signed a lease agreement ? tsk tsk. If she DID, she's on the hook for the rent, whether she lives there or not. I *wouldn't* move in with your husband beforehand. Your attitude toward sex, relationships, and cohabitation is similar to several friends of mine, and they were very happy that they DID NOT move in together before the wedding (though they were tempted for financial reasons, as well). Could you find someone to sublet the room -- a student or tourist -- in the mean time ? My mother just sublet a place up here in NYC for 3 months, and I know FOR A FACT that she paid more than the tenants' monthly rent to cover incidentals and the fact that there was no security deposit. Just a thought.
Oh, and definitely don't invite your crappy roommate AND wear sneakers up the ladder.
This is the kind of dress I can get behind.
ReplyDeleteShe's a virgin and she's wearing that dress? Oh snap.
ReplyDeleteDid you guys see the front of that dress!??!?
ReplyDeleteQuery whether there are going to be more "religious, church-going" peeps at this wedding. I predict a scandal!
as a fellow "religious" person, just wait until you're married for him to move in. not because your church might hate you. or it would be weird having a roommate, but because it feels right to you (does it feel right to you?).
ReplyDeleteThe dress is incredible. It hardly matters what shoes you wear in though, yes? It seems like they will be covered. And being on a budget, why buy another pair of shoes for the handful of photos taken as you walk up a ladder? I like the barefoot idea for that part.
ReplyDeleteAbout boy-wonder moving in, I know it's not a popular or modern opinion, but I agree with Molly that you should wait to live together. If you know you want to marry him and your convictions make you wonder whether it's ok (seems like you and FH are both wondering), "figuring out if you can stand each other's habits" is just in excuse. Furthermore, with the money thing, if you're religious, than maybe just trust that God will take care of it as you do your best in these final months to remain a virgin. It's kind of risky to put yourself in temptations' way, especially since you've put so much effort into waiting and you're almost there! Also consider your reputation with family and friends who are religious. Ultimately, it's your life and you know what's going down or what's not, but you probably don't need the judgement from everyone along with the stresses of wedding planning and heartbreak of your parents's situation.
Best of luck, whatever you decide. :)
a virgin in THAT dress, what will the congregation think?!
ReplyDeleteif you're wearing that for the wedding, eff what people are going to say about moving in 3 months beforehand
Um. I know that my priest wouldn't let me in church in that dress. Honestly, no ifs ands or buts I couldn't even walk in the door. It is gorgeous, but you are basically naked. You might want to re-think that if you're doing the whole church-wedding thing... Save it for the reception, maybe?
ReplyDelete1) Don't bother with the shoes. Wear sneakers hidden under the dress or go barefoot. Don't wear flip flops!
ReplyDelete2) I don't know.
3) If you can swing it financially, don't move in together. You presumably believe strongly in your reasons for not living together, and you've made it this far. Also, I think a lot of the "test out what living together is like/get used to all of his annoying home quirks" business is pretty overblown.
Why has no one mentioned those motherf*n heels?
ReplyDeleteWho made the dress? Must know, must find out!
ReplyDelete(The shoes are HOT too).
P.s. sometimes, financial reasons are as good as any to make life changes.
Dress, heels, flats and room mate story = wow. This is one girl that blows traditional values out the window.
ReplyDeleteDo what you honestly feel is best - does FH think it's a good idea to move in? Honestly? I'd be tending towards no, it's 3 months and you can totally make the distance.
is it terrible that my first reaction to this was "dammmn, I bet if I was a virgin I'd likely (be able to) own my own house too!"
ReplyDelete...anyway. second to that, I sorta agree with the people who say wait to move it. because I'm all sentimental and romantic in that way and if you HAVE been waiting so long, 3 months is SO CLOSE! (Though $2000 is a lot of money...)
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Where did you find those flats? Please? Gorgeous! (And so are the heels)
ReplyDeletewhat the heck is all that french? hawt dress, bride! btw - where is your venue in DC? it's hard finding an affordable venue round here.
ReplyDeleteI didn't take time to read through all the comments to confirm if anyone else thought that gorgeous top-o-the-buttcrack-showing dress seemed like that of a religious conservative virgin. Hm.
ReplyDeleteAs I recall, the 3 months before the wedding are WAY more stressful than the 3 months after. So if the "learn his household habits" process is such a big deal (it causes fights? I guess every couple is different...), save it for after the wedding!
ReplyDeleteAlso, did you see this NYT article on "decision fatigue"? All the wedding-related decision-making could destroy your willpower. So if you're planning to save sex for marriage, you might not want to introduce temptation by living together.
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As a Christian who waited til marriage to move in and have sexy time I second all those comments saying to wait. You won't regret waiting, you could regret movin in.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Pip. That dress is hot, but it's in no way classy
ReplyDeleteWhoa, i just looked at the front of the dress. In what world does someone wear THAT dress and also worry about moving in together before marriage?
ReplyDeleteThat dress is ridiculous! So gorgeous!
ReplyDeleteI recently got married in May and get that there are so many decision to make, so here is my advice: You don't need the shoes to climb the ladder, but if you love them get them. Although a pair of old worn-out motorcycle boots could be cool too. If don't want to invite your roommate you are off the hook, as ESB said.
As for moving in, just do what feels right. If you guys are solid, and love each other it will work out. Don't work about what any body else thinks. Do what makes the most sense.
As for your parents, I've been there, my parents got divorced after 30 years and my dad cheated too. It was a hard thing to wrap my head around at first, and I was very mad at my Dad for a while, but after really examine their relationship, I realized they hadn't been a happy couple for years and were already living separate lives, but neither of them would admit it and walk away. Yes, my mom was very hurt (its been 10 years now) but both of then are so much better off, and way happier. So before you ditch your Dad, maybe figure out why he cheated after all those years? If you have always been close to him, it will hurt both of you in the long run to not have him be apart of your day. People aren't perfect, relationship aren't perfect and wedding are never perfect. Good Luck!
Y'all, she wasn't asking about the dress.
ReplyDelete@Rachel, yes.
ReplyDelete1) No new shoes. Barefoot, because it's sexy.
2) Hell no, you don't have to invite her. You didn't have to invite her anyway.
3) Financial reasons are good justification, but I think the point about decision-making fatigue is a good one. And also agree with the fact that the few months leading up to the wedding are stressful, unless you have someone doing ALL THE THINGS for you. Weigh whether you can really deal with annoying habits on top of the other stressors.
Luck. Also, hugs.
I think you should absolutely move in with your fiance before marriage. It will be hard but even out the kinks before the wedding.
ReplyDeleteAs for that dress, I am completely outta my mind swooning. WOWZA! If you're interested in selling after your special day...? Let me know! Please! I'm a 2/4...
Good luck with it all! I agree with a post before about shoes, barefoot up the ladder and put the heels on for pics on the roof.
1) Get the shoes you want. You can take them off to go up the stairs and put them back on once you're up there. But I agree with ESB, that is going to be one scary climb with that dress you go there...unless you tie it somehow.
ReplyDelete2) Don't invite the 2nd roommate.
3) Only move in with your boyfriend if you want to. Don't move in with him because you feel you have to. And don't not move it with him because what other people might think. You're an adult.
I think it's pretty hysterical that you're worried about him moving in early yet you have no problem being a virgin dressing like a hooker for a Church wedding. Wear sneakers on the ladder (no one will notice your feet in that dress anyway), move him in and I hope you have a back-up for when you get cold in that dress and all hell breaks lose.
ReplyDeleteAnd yeah, you're off the hook with the roommate, just like everyone has said.
that dress is effing hot.
ReplyDelete-a woman who was a virgin when she got married
also, as a woman who was a virgin when she got married- don't have him move in. i'm not sure i would've kept my V-card if i had my soon-to-be-husband sleeping in the other room. just being realistic.
ReplyDeleteYou've obviously had mad willpower all this time, so although hubs moving in before the wedding sounds appealing now (what with mom and dad splitting, hell-bitch roommate ditching out early, etc.) I might encourage a longer-term perspective on this: the wedding is such a momentous occasion, and it might be *really* really nice to have the fun new moving-in-together-and-nesting thing to look forward to *after* the wedding, since that was your original intention that aligned with your beliefs. You've made it this far, and if you can just get through these three months living apart (as you seem to have done pretty successfully all this time) you might be grateful you waited to finally live together until the wedding night.
ReplyDeleteAnd barefoot on the ladder for sure! Flip-flops are super squirrelly on ladders, and in a wedding dress, downright dangerous! Good luck, girl.
Dang, there's some slut-shamers up in here, which is pretty ironic given that she's a virgin.
ReplyDeleteAnyhow, barefoot, hell no, and I think you should try and find another roomie who's not the FH. That way, you stay true to your ideals and don't lose out on $2,000. Best of both worlds, if you can figure it out. Good luck!
Clarification: the hell no means, hell no don't invite her.
ReplyDeleteHave you considered the possibility that your butt might pop out of the back of that dress when you're hiking the ladder?
ReplyDeleteAnd plz, go barefoot.
That dress is a knock-out! Enjoy it. You will be stunning.
ReplyDeleteHave him move in. No question.
As a DC bride who just had a venue fall through, your place sounds exactly like what we're looking for. Do you mind sharing where it is?
ReplyDelete1)kick off the shoes to go up the ladder, put them back on.
2)don't invite her
3)just don't tell anyone
As someone who waited to have sex and to move in till our wedding day I say wait the 3 months, for all the reasons previously given, plus...
ReplyDeleteAs someone who was roommates with a couple during their first year of marriage/living together I say wait to move him in for the sake of your roommate! It was not fun to be around their "learning stuff about each other" moments.
Can we all agree that husbands leave their dirty socks on the ground and moustache trimmings in the sink and stop being surprised about it? I didn't live with my husband before we got married, but I DID listen to every other woman in the world who says that husbands do that. Therefore? No unpleasant shocks whatsoever. And we've been happily married for a year without a single fight.
ReplyDeleteHe's working a job that requires him to go in sewers to support us, so I pick up his socks and rinse out his moustache trimmings without complaint. We're both wildly happy. When my baby is born, I stop work, and he's working evenings doing graphic design to support us, I'll still pick up his socks without complaint.
I can see why it would bother you if you're marrying a selfish jerk whose main contribution to the marriage is dirty socks, but if he's a selfish jerk, why are you marrying him?
I love this dress! I wish I could see the front or at least see a bride who has worn this dress. I'm really interested in trying it on for my wedding, but I dont think anyone in California carries it :(
ReplyDeleteHi, I have been looking for this beautiful wedding dress for a few month now. Have tried it on (and love it) but think the price is to high. Wanna sell it to me? Happy New Year. Jen
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