Wednesday, April 27, 2011

dear esb: i ignored your advice


me again

pined for the dress for 2 more months. so i finally ordered it. heard nothing from the seller for 29 days. filed non-delivery claims. found a traditional dress in a real bridal store. put it on hold. cried over not wanting a traditional dress. told them i didn't want it. bought a different non-traditional dress. loved it. wasn't the same. then heard back from the seller. she'd had a family emergency. sent my dress immediately! but i got the flu. and either didn't hear the doorbell. or the mailman truly never rang the bell. but i was home that day. all day. no really. 11 days later, still had the flu. finally made it to the P.O. for my package. 7 days earlier it had been sent back to mexico. F the P.O.

so my question is: can i re-order it? ;-)

*****

I want to tell you no, but I'm having trouble coming up with a suitable replacement.

(I spent exactly 43 minutes looking this morning, from 5 to 5:43am, I KID YOU NOT. This sched is killing me.)

Ideas? Anyone? We need a size 6.

Photo by David Hamilton via girl. by Band of Outsiders via science of the shot

Posted by esb at 7:34 AM
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40 comments:

  1. RedfrizzzApril 27, 2011 at 7:56 AM

    why can't she re-order it? Talk to the seller, hopefully she'll understand and overnight it to you- no?

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  2. DawnApril 27, 2011 at 8:02 AM

    Contact the seller immediately and see if she can put a rush on it for you somehow.

    Maybe go with UPS instead of USPS if that's possible. It think cause of tax time the mail is super slow right now. I've been waiting forever for things I've ordered.

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  3. AbernackyApril 27, 2011 at 8:08 AM

    What dress was this? (will help for searching)

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  4. rachelApril 27, 2011 at 8:18 AM

    I feel like there are a ton of options at shopbop right now.

    Exhibit A: http://www.shopbop.com/intricate-emb-wedding-dress-beyond/vp/v=1/845524441900773.htm?folderID=2534374302063654&fm=other-shopbysize-viewall&colorId=13149

    Exhibit B: http://www.shopbop.com/lace-chiffon-dress-adam/vp/v=1/845524441900141.htm?folderID=2534374302063654&fm=other-shopbysize-viewall&colorId=13149

    Exhibit c: http://www.shopbop.com/sleeveless-maxi-dress-philosophy-di/vp/v=1/845524441900231.htm?folderID=2534374302063654&fm=other-shopbysize-viewall&colorId=12397

    Exhibit D: http://www.shopbop.com/lace-panelled-dress-haute-hippie/vp/v=1/845524441897656.htm?folderID=2534374302063654&fm=other-shopbysize-viewall&colorId=34372

    Exhibit E: http://www.shopbop.com/macrame-dress-alc/vp/v=1/845524441896969.htm?folderID=2534374302063654&fm=other-shopbysize-viewall&colorId=12397

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  5. AnnaApril 27, 2011 at 8:19 AM

    Here are some options for a replacement. None are really the same as your original, but new options might help?

    1. ALICE by Temperley, Long Mirabelle satin-jersey maxi dress, $575

    http://www.net-a-porter.com/am/product/110159?cm_mmc=LinkshareUS-_-ProductFeed-_-ALICE_by_Temperley-_-Dresses&siteID=Hy3bqNL2jtQ-bq0.yf8bjJpxegt8ek.AKQ

    2.DKNY, Cap Sleeve Long Dress, $295.00

    http://www.shopbop.com/cap-sleeve-ruffle-full-length/vp/v=1/845524441895867.htm?folderID=2534374302063518&fm=other-shopbysize-viewall&colorId=13149

    3.Robert Rodriguez Silk Maxi Dress, $425

    http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/robert-rodriguez-silk-maxi-dress/3155839?origin=category

    4. Very different style dress but maybe same vibe?
    Mike Gonzalez Crochet Cap Sleeve Dress, $264.00

    http://www.shopbop.com/crochet-cap-sleeve-dress-mike/vp/v=1/845524441898672.htm?folderID=2534374302063518&fm=other-shopbysize-viewall&colorId=12610

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  6. MouseApril 27, 2011 at 8:19 AM

    Have them rush it to you. Given the initial delay, it should be on the seller to make sure it gets to you. Have them deliver it by UPS or FedEx to somewhere there are people (your office, your friend who works at home). Track the package. xo

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  7. MaddieApril 27, 2011 at 8:20 AM

    This might be one of the few times that I recommend BHLDN.

    http://www.bhldn.com/the-shop_gowns/greenbow-lace-gown

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  8. clemmieblueApril 27, 2011 at 8:24 AM

    How about this one? It's not as loose as the dress you loved, but I think it's incredibly pretty: http://www.etsy.com/listing/72903211/vintage-70s-mexican-maxi-dress-white?ref=sr_gallery_33&ga_ref=auto&ga_search_query=mexican+dress&ga_search_type=vintage&ga_facet=vintage

    or this - no need to belt it: http://www.etsy.com/listing/47710980/into-the-sunsent-vintage-embroidered?ref=sr_gallery_23&ga_search_query=mexican+dress&ga_page=2&ga_search_type=vintage&ga_facet=vintage

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  9. hello again girlsApril 27, 2011 at 8:26 AM

    when is your wedding? if time isn't an issue, there is no reason why you can't re-order.

    but if time is of the essence, you might want to look around.

    okay - since the bride-to-be's original dress description was "Hippie Fairy Chic Bohemian" i checked out Free People.

    this style is pretty similar to your dream dress, with sleeves but a bit more form-fitting, which your FH might like. $228

    http://www.freepeople.com/vintage-loves-clothes/vintage-gauze-peasant-dress/

    the size is a m/l so you might have to have it tailored if you're a size 6

    good luck!

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  10. chesapeakeApril 27, 2011 at 8:29 AM

    check out Free People. They have a few dresses that have a similar feeling. Nothing exact, but my advice is to look for something that gives you the feeling. Forget the first dress. I thought I wanted something with lace and vintagey and champagne colored, but ended up with a purple dress. Had I not opened up my requirements I never would have found it (and three weeks before my wedding no less). Good luck!

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  11. angelaApril 27, 2011 at 8:38 AM

    check out this shop on etsy: http://www.etsy.com/shop/AidaCoronado?ref=pr_shop_more

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  12. sofia.rompsApril 27, 2011 at 8:38 AM

    I have to say I like a lot of the options above more than the dress you are hung up on. I would keep in mind that you have not seen that dress in person and it may turn up and be a let down.

    I think Rachel is right on with Exhibit B (Adam dress from Shopbop). It will be comfy and robe like (you can fit a lot of cocktails and cake in that thing) but the back is totally sexy,

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  13. hello again girlsApril 27, 2011 at 8:41 AM

    @sofia.romps - i agree, that Adam Dress is stunning.

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  14. sofia.rompsApril 27, 2011 at 8:42 AM

    They are sold out of the size 6 on shopbop, but they have it at net-a-porter

    http://www.net-a-porter.com/am/product/110249?cm_mmc=ProductSearch-_-US-_-Dresses-_-Crocheted

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  15. DanaApril 27, 2011 at 9:27 AM

    Shopbop, cream colored, puff sleeve

    http://www.shopbop.com/lace-panelled-dress-haute-hippie/vp/v=1/845524441897656.htm?folderID=2534374302063518&fm=other-shopbysize-viewall&colorId=34372

    Miss Selfridge, White strapless

    http://www.missselfridge.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/ProductDisplay?catalogId=33055&storeId=12554&categoryId=208040&parent_categoryId=208036&productId=2371125&langId=-1&cmpId=lshare4&siteID=Hy3bqNL2jtQ-jFSZ_eQMGMuCbOMAvf9a2w

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  16. AnonymousApril 27, 2011 at 9:36 AM

    Well, yeah of course you CAN ask to have the dress reshipped and you should if you really, really want it (which it sounds like you do).

    If there is no time or you decide not to for some reason. I'd either go with the Behldn option Maddie suggested or one of the two etsy options clemmieblue linked to, they are both so lovely. Have to say I'm not totally into the Adam dress everyone else loves.

    Good luck!

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  17. SarahApril 27, 2011 at 9:44 AM

    I truly think this is the world telling you that maybe you should pick a different dress. There are so many super pretty options on this comments thread. Shop away!

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  18. nicoleApril 27, 2011 at 9:54 AM

    Poor thing! It sounds like you went through Etsy hell! I might not reorder through that vendor.

    I love Exhibit E that Rachel posted above. The A.L.C. macrame number.

    This may be an option, too: http://www.calypsostbarth.com/Savon-Robe-Dress-p-18370.html

    To reiterate Mouse (above): Wherever/whenever/however you find your dress: Make sure you get a tracking number. Look it up online and watch the package in its various stages of shipping. I watch EVERYTHING I order, so I know exactly when it's "in transit," or "out for delivery" or "arrived." If you're still afraid of missing it at home, have it shipped to your workplace. Just an idea. GOOD LUCK. xo.

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  19. allisonApril 27, 2011 at 10:36 AM

    ooooh @rachel, love exhibit B!

    Although I have to say, I agree with @Sarah: If it's been this difficult to resolve to get the dress, buy the dress, doesnt come, sits at PO, gets sent back, then you have to order it again? Mayyybe the universe is trying to tell you something. Might not meant to be. However, I know you really want an "alternative dress" and there are so so many out there! Keep looking, you will find something.

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  20. allisonApril 27, 2011 at 10:37 AM

    And also: dont feel bad if you have second thoughts about the dress. I bought my dress months ago, love it, but I still see dresses that I would have also loved to wear. That's just how it goes.

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  21. east side brideApril 27, 2011 at 10:43 AM

    I'm with Anon 9:36. The Adam dress is WAY PREGGERS.

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  22. AnonymousApril 27, 2011 at 10:58 AM

    http://www.theoutnet.com/product/62632

    what about this?

    -Colleen

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  23. ActsofBeautyApril 27, 2011 at 11:06 AM

    I like the original dress, it's beautiful, and also, sod the message from the universe, if you love the dress, re-order! But maybe if your husband still doesn't like it, wear it as a bathrobe for the rest of your life instead of for your wedding :)

    Or, buy it and alter it to make it sexier?

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  24. ActsofBeautyApril 27, 2011 at 11:18 AM

    Having said that, the Free People dress and the Temperley dress are both gorgeous, and more 'dress' like.

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  25. MollyApril 27, 2011 at 1:59 PM

    I like the dress Nicole posted above.

    For the record, ESB, I did catch the "me" link.

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  26. NikkiApril 27, 2011 at 2:20 PM

    I'm sure she's checked Ebay, but I love giving my 2 cents ;)

    http://www.etsy.com/listing/70794399/vintage-70s-mexican-dress-white-with

    http://compare.ebay.com/like/120705689491?var=lv&ltyp=AllFixedPriceItemTypes&var=sbar&rvr_id=227961313959&crlp=1_263602_309572&UA=WXI8&GUID=98d04d8e12f0a47a441392f3ffb9b065&itemid=120705689491&ff4=263602_309572

    http://compare.ebay.com/like/370378175787?var=lv&ltyp=AllFixedPriceItemTypes&var=sbar&rvr_id=227958533337&crlp=1_263602_309572&UA=WXI8&GUID=98d04d8e12f0a47a441392f3ffb9b065&itemid=370378175787&ff4=263602_309572

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  27. NikkiApril 27, 2011 at 2:22 PM

    But now I'm in love with the outnet dress anon just posted a few comments above. A little more fitted and I think her future husband would love it!

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  28. east side brideApril 27, 2011 at 2:35 PM

    Yes, Colleen. The outnet dress is IT. Me Again, if you don't buy that dress you're in big trouble.

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  29. DawnApril 27, 2011 at 2:46 PM

    Here's a dress from Ralph Lauren's new line which Net-A-Porter is calling "Prairie Chic" (lord help us).

    kinda splits the difference between traditional and and the dress you ordered it's pricey though:
    http://www.net-a-porter.com/product/109197

    I still think you should try to get that dress you want- reorder it, rush it, track it but have a back up.

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  30. MollyApril 27, 2011 at 2:53 PM

    On second thought, I vote for the outnet dress Colleen posted. It's got the whole hippie/boho/prairie vibe but is a bit more sophisticated. Plus, low neckline=happy groom.

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  31. allisonApril 27, 2011 at 3:34 PM

    ALSO, I totally just fell upon this little baby at F21?!?

    http://www.forever21.com/product.asp?catalog_name=FOREVER21&category_name=dress&product_id=2000014826&Page=3&pgcount=25

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  32. snarkycatApril 27, 2011 at 4:32 PM

    Did someone mention the Chris Benz dress at Shopbop? I had a moment with it. I don't think the model looks happy enough to be wearing it. It's got yellow. What's not to smile about?

    http://www.shopbop.com/evelyn-long-dress-chris-benz/vp/v=1/845524441887588.htm?folderID=2534374302123354&fm=browse-brand-shopbysize-viewall&colorId=11454

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  33. ErikaApril 27, 2011 at 6:09 PM

    Colleen nailed it. It's like the original dress + a whole lot sexy + on sale + the right size.

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  34. AnonymousApril 27, 2011 at 7:45 PM

    hell yes, colleen and esb!! thanks so much, and to all of you - so cool! will order it asap. so perfect.

    thanks again,
    "me"

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  35. BrigittaApril 27, 2011 at 7:56 PM

    omg i am shocked by how many responses are here. But here are my options

    this maxi by Free people for $120-ish http://www.freepeople.com/clothes-dresses-maxi/threaded-lurex-maxi-dress/

    this ruffle asos is very non traditional
    http://www.asos.com/Asos/Asos-Maxi-Dress-With-Ruffle-Sleeves/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=1577075&cid=8799&sh=0&pge=0&pgesize=200&sort=-1&clr=Multi

    BUT THIS ONE IS BEST:
    http://www.asos.com/River-Island/River-Island-Flower-Embellished-Maxi-Dress/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=1543690&cid=8799&sh=0&pge=0&pgesize=200&sort=-1&clr=White

    its chiffon, has some embellishment but still has a folky-tiered skirt that you seem to like.

    BUT the link to the OUTNET is gone so I presume Colleen wins!

    yay for dresses

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  36. AnonymousApril 27, 2011 at 11:27 PM

    Oh! Now I want to see the dress that was bought instead, but the link has stopped! AHHHH the disappointment!

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  37. MollyApril 28, 2011 at 4:32 AM

    Me Again, PLEASE SEND PICS!

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  38. A Los Angeles LoveApril 28, 2011 at 9:46 AM

    Ooh. I REALLY like the outnet dress. But I just found this vintage option that really catptures the essence of your first dress, though a bit less robe-like.

    http://www.etsy.com/listing/69793776/romantic-in-echo-park

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  39. east side brideApril 28, 2011 at 2:56 PM

    @ALAL "Romantic in Echo Park." BWAHA

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  40. kjMay 3, 2011 at 6:25 PM

    @Molly ditto!

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