My best friend, the C-Word.

Feb 7, 2011

ESB -

I hope you know I completely adore your blog. Humongous, ginormous fan. Anyways, on to the question, no?

My fiance and I moved 1000 miles away from home in Chicago almost four years ago and, naturally, some of our good friends kind of fell off. We're great at keeping in touch, promise, but 1000 miles will do things to friendships...just hard to stay in touch. Anyways, I kept in great contact with my best friend of almost 7 years back home, we've seen each other on every trip back home and have talked on the phone 2-3x week since I moved. We've been sending each other birthday gifts and what not - you get it, we've been in touch. She was just telling me the other day in a bit of a sad day that no one gets her like me and I always felt the same.

I called the other day and she was asking about the wedding...wondering if she was invited. What?!? Invited?! Hell yes, girl...actually, we just made the decision not to have a wedding party because I's friends would be really butt hurt if he had to choose a best man and we don't want anyone to have any obligations, just come as you are....but I did want to ask if you would be our witness and be my best woman nonetheless? She was silent.

I spoke up again: "You don't have to do anything, just be there while I get ready and what not..."

"So you want me to plan your shit for you?"

"No..."

"That's what you're saying, right?"

Inside, of course, I was screaming "FUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK YOUUUUUUUUUUU" but instead, I'm reconsidering and thinking of kind of loosening up the reins on that friendship and letting it run its course into whatever possible destruction it seems to be taking me toward.

What would you do? Was it an unreasonable request on my part?

Sell it to me straight, ESB.

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Feb 28, 2011 (10:29am)

Any new developments??

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Feb 28, 2011 (10:34am)

We've talked recently and she hasn't brought it up again. She doesn't like talking about the wedding at all and I'm feeling a bit of a cold shoulder and brush off. My main question at this point is, do I have the right to choose another or not to have a Maid of Honor at this point, even though I've already asked? Is it rude to ask someone to be your MOH if you're not going to have them stand or take on any responsibilities? Did I take all the fun out of it?

Hm.

Thanks, ESB.

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Mar 2, 2011 (now-ish)

It's YOUR WEDDING. If your friend is bumming you out, you have the right to let her off the hook at any point. 

I don't think she's pissed about the MOH duties (or lack of duties). It sounds like there's something else going on. Maybe she's having trouble dealing with the fact that you're getting married? Your happiness is making her unhappy? But you can't let her drag you down.

I have been slammed with my-bridesmaid-is-acting-like-a-cunt emails in the past week. Total bummersauce.

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