Friday, February 4, 2011

If I were to get married now...................


imaginary outfit: winter wedding


from Stephanie of even*cleveland

I was lucky when it came to my wedding - the weather was beautiful, everyone had fun (including me), and most importantly, it took. Nearly nine years later, I'm still crazy about the guy I married. 

It was an unconventional conventional wedding. Most of the usual elements were there - wedding party, reception and dancing, dress and veil - but slightly tweaked. I was young and stubborn and happy enough not to care what anyone thought, and it was a perfect moment. I've always liked that about weddings. They are ephemeral moments we want to so fill with love and beauty that they become permanent. That's a rare thing. When you think about it, there are very few days where you know in advance that you want to remember them forever, but a wedding is. Everyone responds to that in touching and funny ways. We pick out the things we think will make the memory and obsess over them - the right dress, the perfect flowers, charming invitations, fantastic photos - but the thing is that emotion wins in the end. It is either a happy day or it isn't. I am grateful mine was.

If I was getting married today, my wedding would be different because my life is different. It would be a much more private event - only the very nearest and dearest included, invited by handwritten note on starry cards. We'd be married somewhere in the city, very late on a winter's night. I'd wear an ivory velvet dress and blue for luck, like countless brides before, but it would be a dress I could wear year after year on anniversary fĂȘtes (it is too sad to think of wearing something so lovely only once). I'd pair it with silvery shoes made for dancing and a fantastic coat encrusted with silver embroidery. There would be feathers in my hair and jewels in just the right amount. I would scout for the perfect perfume - something distinctive and evocative, to match the moment - and beautiful wine dark flowers.  After the ceremony, we'd sit down to a glamorous midnight supper, dance and drink champagne, and in the morning we'd jet off to St. Petersburg or Montreal or somewhere else cold and snowy, where we could have a hotel room with a fireplace and reason to stay inside. And I'd be looking forward. Weddings are only beginnings, after all. The good stuff is what comes after.

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32 comments:

  1. this wedding sounds so perfect... eclectic, intricate, intimate... i love the dark flowers and lingerie!

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  2. Sounds a lot like the wedding I am planning right now!

    Beautiful post.

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  3. okay, here's the plan: i'm proposing marriage to your third paragraph, and if it accepts, we each throw that kind of party/afterparty. i will even tell you where to find the best sandwich in montreal.

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  4. I love this idea. I would do everything differently!

    And this is a fabby way to start. Hooray for velvet and sparkles!!!

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  5. @Lauren: My third paragraph says yes, as long as the sandwich includes smoked meat. Of course, the third paragraph will do anything for a party.

    Thanks for letting me do this, ESB!

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  6. this is so romantic! i will file it away for when it's time for me to think about getting married.

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  7. ESB and evencleveland! that's power like bowie and jagger on the same stage.

    i just want to say there's so much love from here that flows from you both.

    and s, this is perfect...with a hint of blue.

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  8. oops... i meant to say for you both.

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  9. this was amazing. really looking forward to future posts in this series!

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  10. "but the things is that emotion wins in the end"

    ... and i'm crying.

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  11. AWESOME STUFF! btw, that looks like the bouquet i had. thanks for making me get all sentimental. ;)

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  12. 1. I love your vision.
    2. That feather headband is fucking awesome, and I'm not a handband-loving girl. Its probably the peacock feathers, but I love it.


    Also, ESB, this is such a cute idea.

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  13. Genius combination of wits and styles! Bowie and Jagger, indeed.

    I'm such an imaginary winter bride. Love the textural, velvety feeling of this.

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  14. @evencleveland crap, it's the vegetarian muffuletta at mckiernan. mckiernan shares a wall and is in cahoots with joe beef, though, so bigamy for the win!

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  15. YES! I love the idea of selecting a dress that could be worn on every anniversary. (Why didn't I think of that?! Damn it)

    I also found this to be particularly poignant:
    "Weddings are only beginnings, after all. The good stuff is what comes after."

    Great post! xo.

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  16. Yes, this is wonderful. More, please, esb! Leather jackets and now this. What's the cool girl version of swooning?

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  17. Beautiful essay and full of so much truth! It is of course just the beginning!
    Also, I'm obsessed with the coat!

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  18. the good stuff definitely comes after. xoxoxo

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  19. Cool outfit and thoughtful writing, Stephanie. And you're so right...the best is after the wedding. My husband and I have been married into double digit years now. At times it's been hard...death of a parent, illness and a miscarriage. But I truly can say that I married my best friend. :)

    Martha B.

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  20. I love this feature. I've been married for 3 years, so I don't think I can participate yet but it's funny how getting on the other side brings a lot of perspective.

    I channeled by desire for pretty parties driven by love into a surprise 40th anniversary for my in-laws. It was fantastic and all of my MILs friends were horribly jealous. Mission accomplished!

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  21. What a beautiful post! This really captured the meaning of marriage and a wedding (says the single girl :P) I really like this new segment!

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  22. exquisite writing, outfit. love this post.

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  23. I think actually better than Bowie and Jagger. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9G4jnaznUoQ

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  24. that last line actually makes me feel like getting married someday might not be such a bad idear. brilliant post. thanks.

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  25. You hooked me at sparkly brocade jacket and a St. Petersburg honeymoon.

    LOVE this series. And this was the perfect way to kick it off...

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  26. Stephanie writes the most beautiful words and creates the most vivid outfits. Also, the green underwear, wow.

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  27. Gorgeous outfit - would be great with pale skin and red hair - like Tilda Swinton or Stella Tennant.
    And, yes to emotion winning and to what comes after! Perfect description of a wedding - could be our wedding (other than the young and stubborn bit - I'm an old push-over).

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  28. This is totally a fantasy come true. perfect colors and emotions.

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