Tuesday, January 4, 2011

THE MULLET OF WEDDING DRESSES


Dear ESB,

After looking at tons of dresses and trying on my fair share, I am leaning towards this one.

I think it's kind of rock n' roll, kind of fun, a little bit sexy, a lot a bit unique, and definitely bold. Not to mention easy to move in. Long and short. Best of both worlds, right?

BUT I also can't help but think maybe I am out of my damn mind, it's crazy, it's weird, it's the mullet of wedding dresses, no one will like it, and what am I thinking?

I don't understand how I can have both of those thoughts at the same time.

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I really really want to say, "Who cares what people think? ROCK IT!"

But the thing is pretty ugly. It looks kinda like a David's Bridal gown got into a bad accident with a pair of shears and you had to do a quick repair job with your grandma's nightie.

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This post is brought to you from SEA-TAC airport, where we just consumed the worst nachos known to man.
Posted by esb at 7:39 PM
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46 comments:

  1. kathleen // scout + lillyJanuary 4, 2011 at 8:01 PM

    Ummm yeah... not diggin the mullet dress.

    If you want the best of both worlds but don't want to wear TWO, just do something with layers like that and have it tailored to make the lower layers removable. I saw someone do that with a Monique Lhullier (I think?)... had a tiered tulle skirt. But rock it YOUR way, of course.

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  2. AnonymousJanuary 4, 2011 at 8:09 PM

    Oh, dear. This is a bad dress. Good for you, anonymous bride, for reaching out. I hope you find a good one for the big day!

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  3. Ms. BunnyJanuary 4, 2011 at 8:15 PM

    There are much better versions of this style out there. It's a very contemporary look, so I don't know why they decided to add lace to this one. If you want to go for short in the front, long in the back, go for super sleek and structured fabrics.

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  4. lizzie [love your way]January 4, 2011 at 8:45 PM

    i'm with bunny...although i HATE the asymmetrical look for everything apparel...haircuts are the only time it's "rock'n roll..." otherwise, i tend to assume it's from d.e.b. or 5-7-9 circa 2000.

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  5. MelissaJanuary 4, 2011 at 9:39 PM

    Just own it and find the best sassy cocktail/tea length number you can get your hands on. You know its what you really want.

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  6. CeliaJanuary 4, 2011 at 9:55 PM

    the first thing i'm going to say is, if you LOVE it, you should wear it.

    however, since you seem to be concerned with others' opinions, i feel inclined to add my two cents. more than being ugly, the dress is just poorly constructed. the first red light would have to be that the waistline on the dress falls below the natural waist... and not in a good "drop-waist flapper way", but in an "even that skinny model looks thick waisted way". for $1150, i assure you you can get a higher quality dress that is not only beautiful, but sexy and unique. keep hunting...

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  7. nikkiJanuary 4, 2011 at 10:29 PM

    I agree with Celia, and apologize to esb for the sheisty nachos at our airport (airport nachos? really?)

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  8. east side brideJanuary 4, 2011 at 10:53 PM

    @nikki what? I LIKE NACHOS.

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  9. hellopoppetJanuary 5, 2011 at 12:07 AM

    who gives a rat's ass what anyone thinks of your dress? if you love it then wear it. and don't worry about having doubts about your dress...i was unsure about my dress right up until a few days before the wedding. it turned out my gut was right though and it was the perfect dress for me. trust your instincts.

    and i quite like the dress in the pic, in a grungy kinda courtney love sort a way....

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  10. Lily and the valleyJanuary 5, 2011 at 3:18 AM

    Usually I'm in the "wear what the fuck you want" camp but I'd like to add 2 things, if that's ok.

    1. You need to be prepared for peoples' reactions to it. People can be real asshats sometimes. If that makes you feel like a big, self-conscious, mullet-wearing beacon you're never going to be able to rock it.

    2. It's so hideous it's just given me the boke.

    Also, was I the only one reading her letter with my breath held waiting for her to suggest wearing it with cowboy boots?

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  11. 17 beats.January 5, 2011 at 4:05 AM

    i'm kind of into it, but i think it's because i'm really feeling the setting of the photos. it's so shitty here in NY, that any photo of green makes me excited.

    honestly, if i was a pal of yours and saw you walk down the aisle in that, i would CRACK UP.

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  12. A Bicycle Built For TwoJanuary 5, 2011 at 4:40 AM

    I like it and would respect you for having the balls to wear it. I also know your future children will laugh at your wedding pictures. "Oh Mom!"

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  13. AnonymousJanuary 5, 2011 at 4:58 AM

    @Lily - I think cowboy boots would make this dress acceptable. :) Otherwise ... no. I agree with Ms. Bunny, Celia, and Melissa on this.

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  14. kat - rock n roll brideJanuary 5, 2011 at 6:04 AM

    i dont think its ugly at all! and if she likes it then she should defo go for it...seriously. it's her wedding right?

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  15. sofia.rompsJanuary 5, 2011 at 7:31 AM

    The whole "mullet dress" trend makes me think of something Vera Ellen would have worn to tap dance in. Watch link below at 3:30

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1MMJmK2V_hQ

    I would say that unless you have her legs (and I am sure you do!) I wouldn't even go there. Get a cocktail dress and glam it up with some amazing shoes.

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  16. AnonymousJanuary 5, 2011 at 7:33 AM

    These types of dresses just instantly bring up images of Stephanie Seymour in the November Rain video... But if having a G'N'R moment at your wedding is your thing, go for it!

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  17. lizJanuary 5, 2011 at 7:45 AM

    i kinda don't mind the mullet.

    i do mind the thick-waisted-ness that celia pointed out.

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  18. JessicaJanuary 5, 2011 at 8:06 AM

    I like the high-low skirt, but not the double layers of it. And the height difference between the front and back is a little big.
    Maybe a different dress, in a similar style would work?

    Its your wedding. If you love that dress and it looks good on you (make sure to look at pictures of you in the dress, on a computer screen, before buying. its amazing the things you'll see you didn't see in person.) then get it.


    But, if you aren't sure you like it AND that it looks good on you, don't get it.

    I don't mean you have to love your wedding dress like you love your future spouse - but get something you know you look damned good in. Its wonderful to not have to worry if you look good, you'll have plenty of other things to think about that day.

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  19. nicoleJanuary 5, 2011 at 8:11 AM

    I actually love this trend! The high-low hem.

    It has been done REALLY well here:
    http://greenweddingshoes.com/real-wedding-brooke-ryans-fun-north-carolina-wedding/

    and here:
    http://greenweddingshoes.com/real-wedding-mary-stefans-artsy-halloween-wedding/

    I say go for it! xo.

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  20. ActsofBeautyJanuary 5, 2011 at 8:32 AM

    I have lusted after this High-Low Balmain dress ever since it appeared in Vogue.

    http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_qdEKX2R9Eh0/SlNU0PQoiOI/AAAAAAAABkQ/r3XoDmSbZOM/s1600-h/Vogue+UK+-+August+2009+-+Paris+-+Lily+Donaldson8.jpg

    There's nothing wrong with this trend done well. But seriously - that wedding dress is gross. The waist is wrong. It's not sexy at all!
    The Balmain number - that is sexy.

    Also - am I the only woman despairing that every bride wants to wear virginal white? Colour is so much more interesting, exciting, unusual, expressive - under-done if you're looking to be hip? Anyone?

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  21. GiovannaJanuary 5, 2011 at 9:00 AM

    if you like it and you can't stop thinking about it, you should go for it. that said, i don't really like it, but maybe you'll rock it better than the girl in the photo.
    ps. i'd be willing to bet airport nachos are better than airport lobster roll. yep, i tried it and i'm not proud of it.

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  22. RachelJanuary 5, 2011 at 11:41 AM

    Yeah, have to admit this makes me cringe. But take my opinion with a grain of salt, because asymmetrical clothing of any sort (even when done well) generally doesn't sit right with me.

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  23. "T-Bone" LeeJanuary 5, 2011 at 3:57 PM

    very 2002.

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  24. BrigittaRJanuary 6, 2011 at 4:09 AM

    I don't like mullet dresses but if you do then GO FOR IT!
    But for the love of your own good taste don't go with this one. I agree with Celia and Ms Bunny. Also if you go mullet don't go lacey layered with a pleaty folded bustier top. IMO.

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  25. GhaniJanuary 6, 2011 at 12:07 PM

    The style is totally hot, that dress is not.

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  26. CassaundraJanuary 6, 2011 at 1:43 PM

    YEAHH .... not cute dress.

    how was your vacation from the blogs/holiday?

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  27. AnonymousJanuary 6, 2011 at 4:59 PM

    Maybe a more subtle mullet would work? Here are a couple of Elizabeth Dye dresses that make it look good.
    http://elizabethdye.blogspot.com/2010/10/east-or-west-grey-is-best.html

    http://elizabethdye.blogspot.com/2010/08/ghost-with-attitude.html

    And here's an amazing custom dress she did that has a "tear away" skirt that gives two different looks. That first photo with the horse blows my mind! http://elizabethdye.blogspot.com/2009/09/every-wedding-needs-horse.html

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  28. Meredith MandelJanuary 7, 2011 at 10:55 AM

    I honestly really like it. It's not the same boring dress everyone has, but the top has something to be desired. Also if you're concerned about the "mullet-ness" I think this would look really cute with a tulle petticoat sticking out underneath.

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  29. AnonymousJanuary 7, 2011 at 2:52 PM

    Well shit. I am sorry I asked. Although this is totally what I deserve for asking for random strangers' opinions on the internet.

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  30. r&rJanuary 9, 2011 at 3:52 AM

    i like it. i wouldn't rock it and i don't love it. go with this, if you put it on and feel great in it then who gives a flying f&*k what anyone else thinks or says.

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  31. ToniaJanuary 12, 2011 at 11:20 AM

    Just found this post on oncewed.com and thought of you...check out #6 in her collage of dresses. Wowza. THAT'S a high-low dress that gets the job done! Sexy.

    http://www.oncewed.com/38383/wedding-blog/simple-destination-wedding-dresses/destination-wedding-dresses-2/

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  32. east side brideJanuary 12, 2011 at 1:21 PM

    @Tonia but no link to BUY the dress. i hate that.

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  33. BlanketJanuary 14, 2011 at 7:11 AM

    I am also searching for a hi-lo dress and i kind of dig this one...

    Though THIS is what I really want (no longer available :(

    http://www.fabsugar.com/Anzevino-Florence-Creates-Walking-Air-Wedding-Dress-3496156?page=0,0,2

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  34. AnonymousJanuary 16, 2011 at 7:03 PM

    @ blanket- now THAT is a rockin' dress.
    @ tonia- that #6 is pretty, but it's a little too close to showing off some bridal va jay jay, don't you think?

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  35. AnonymousJanuary 18, 2011 at 6:29 PM

    i think you are all monsters for speaking the way you have.

    i think that dress is beautiful. i think if you feel beautiful in it, you will be so happy that you stuck with the dress you loved, and felt good in.

    everyone else here is a douchebag who couldn't bear the idea that they weren't as awesome as you, and they got roped into wearing something that everyone else has worn before.

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  36. east side brideJanuary 18, 2011 at 7:14 PM

    @Anon 6:29 on this blog, if you ask for an opinion, YOU GET ONE.

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  37. indigoJanuary 18, 2011 at 8:33 PM

    Fair enough to state your opinions, but did you really have to tear the poor woman's dress choice to shreds?
    Rock n Roll bride posted an article a few days ago about online negativity. Remember, there is always a real person behind any blog post. Don't you think she deserves some respect?
    Here is the article if you want to read it - http://www.rocknrollbride.com/2011/01/online-negativity-and-comment-etiquette/

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  38. April BishopJanuary 19, 2011 at 4:49 AM

    If I were to plan my wed­ding all over again, the one thing I would most def­i­nitely change is my dress. While I liked my dress, I wasn’t overly con­cerned with the whole thing dur­ing the shop­ping process.

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  39. allisonJanuary 19, 2011 at 1:06 PM

    we need some more suggestions for high-low dresses here, people. she obviously wants it, but mayyybe the fit isnt quite right. the few suggestions posted already are great, but we need some more. go go go!

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  40. UnknownJanuary 24, 2011 at 1:56 PM

    I'm not on this forum, I was provided this link to take a look at the dress and read some comments. I can honestly say that whether someone wants an opinion or not, doesn't mean you have to be nasty. A simple "I don't like it personally" will suffice. To be realistic, a good chunk of people probably don't like "your" dresses either, but "you" do/did. So what's your problem?

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  41. JessicaJanuary 31, 2011 at 7:34 AM

    To all the people fussing about negativity: there were plenty of comments encouraging her to wear it if she loves it.

    But, also realize, if you're asking for an opinion of this magnitude outside of your friend group that probably means you are unsure. And if you're unsure there are probably reasons behind it... I don't think people would have made negative comments on it had she not already expressed her doubt.

    Anon 629 & Llora: She asked and was answered. Granted, it may not be the fluffy kittens & rainbows answer she wanted, but at least it was an honest one.

    indigo: I don't feel like anyone was trying to cut her down personally. She is not defined by a dress she happens to love/dislike.



    Also, I'd like to remind yall: this is ESB, not WeddingBee.

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  42. JessicaJanuary 31, 2011 at 7:42 AM

    Anon 252: Girl, if you love it, then fucking wear it. None of us will be there so we won't know. Hell, send us a picture of how beautiful you look in it and make us all eat our damned words.

    I think everyone just wants you to be happy. And your original message seemed like you have doubts. So we didn't sugar coat our feelings for you. But you don't know us! It doesn't matter what we think!


    also, sorry for the double post. I didn't see her response my first read through.

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  43. digitalpaperlab.comFebruary 10, 2011 at 8:13 AM

    i LOVE LOVE LOVE this wedding dress. i need to know...WHO IS THE DESIGNER? it's different, it's funky, it's sexy, it's got a cool vibe. i look at this dress and the perfect description is ROCK n' ROLL INNOCENCE. boo to the haters. rock on girl!

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  44. AnonymousMay 9, 2011 at 12:44 PM

    i think this dress is AMAZING!! its very cute and very rock n roll! i tried a similar one on and it looked amazing,i think you should get it!!:)

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  45. AnonymousSeptember 25, 2011 at 9:32 AM

    I love how people keep calling this a "forum". :)

    that said, I have two words: Stephanie Seymour.

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  46. AnonymousSeptember 29, 2011 at 7:33 AM

    Ivy and Aster has a good one.

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