Saturday, August 28, 2010

Dear ESB: Do these shoes go with my dress?


I've been searching for shoes for my wedding in November. I'm not a bride-y bride and all my friends keep sending me generic, ivory satin wedding shoes I'll never wear again. I came across these Elizabeth & James shoes this week.

I love them but one of my bridesmaids says they don't go with my dress. I think they do... maybe I'm crazy. I'm really starting to get fed up with their opinions because they just have such different taste than me.

Sometimes I feel like shouting, "It's not your wedding!"

I really value your opinion because your taste is anything but generic. I've attached a photo of the shoes next to my dress - if you agree that it's just not a good match maybe you can point me in the right direction?

Noelle

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I hate to say it, but your bridesmaid is right.

The macrame lace-ups exude a kind of boho dork chic, while the dress is classically romantic. It's an odd juxtaposition.

I think you should go with a really gorgeous pair of classic black pumps. Has anyone seen a really gorgeous pair lately?

27 comments:

  1. Your bridesmaid and ESB are both right. They don't go with your dress.

    Try a bold red stiletto, if you want something different.

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  2. no, they don't "go." wear them anyway.

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  3. BLACK PUMPS.

    but yeah if *you* like them & how they look and you don't care too much about what others think then wear em anyways.

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  4. These might preserve the architectural interest of the original shoes and echo some of the design flourishes of the gown: http://tinyurl.com/2cg7edm

    I think they'd be better in a color, but the feel seems right.

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  5. I love the look. The other shoes people are showing you here pale to yours and some are awful. Go for it and be amazing and be you! It is YOUR day, afterall.

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  6. Thanks for the suggestions! I think you are all right about them.
    I think I'm gonna get them anyway and wear 'em with jeans or something.

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  7. i like lauren's answer. and i think the whole black pumps with a wedding dress thing, although it would be lovely with your dress, is a little played out. there, i said it.

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  8. Classic, but awesome and NAVY: http://www.gravitypope.com/shoes/product/11916-marc-jacobs-605817-004-peeptoe-3-heel-pump

    Adorably roughed-up twee: http://www.barneys.com/Bow%20Pump/500684706,default,pd.html

    Also, someone PLEASE wear these!! Please?: http://www.gravitypope.com/shoes/product/10205-tracey-neuls-TNA911-WHT-2-eye-star-2

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  9. maybe if you're tired of hearing people's opinions you shouldn't ask for them. not trying to be a bitch, i know how you feel. you're just trying to share what you've found and get some feedback... but if you really love em, go for it. they wont have a damn thing to say

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  10. I totally agree about not wanting an ordinary pair of shoes, and dare I say you even wear again! I took quite a bit of searching before I found a pair of heels that made me go head over heels, but I think it's definitely worth the search. Don't give in to the generic gross shoes- I'm confident you'll find ones that make your heart skip a beat! Check out shopstyle, it's a great site!

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  11. no worries, prac schmac. i actually don't ask for their opinions, i just said these are the shoes i'm getting. i asked on HERE because i wanted to see something besides a white, satin shoe.

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  12. They don't exactly 'go' but unless your dress is short they don't need to go, they just need to make you happy. My shoes didn't go at all, I loved them and don't regret them for a moment.

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  13. k_darling i LOVE those shoes - the Lanvins esp. damn, wish they weren't so pricey though.

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  14. Well, these ones aren't exactly inexpensive, but certainly better than the price of the Lanvins and also great:

    http://www.endless.com/dp/B0027IQV24/ref=asc_df_B0027IQV241219500?tag=endlesscj-20&creative=395021&linkCode=asn&creativeASIN=B0027IQV24

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  15. Is the dress long? No one is going to see the shoes.

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  16. Pffft. Wear them anyway. If you usually wear things that don't "go", why should your wedding day be different? Nobody is going to see your shoes, but you can still feel like yourself.

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  17. black pumps? please don't. wear them if it'll make you happy. if you'll be stressing about what other people are thinking, just get something else.

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  18. Instead of black pumps, wear colored pumps (if you're doing "wedding colors," one of those would be ideal; if not, just a favorite color). You probably wouldn't wear them as often as black pumps, but you'll wear them. And they'll be more fun. :)

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  19. I've been DROOLING over these:
    http://www.zappos.com/marc-by-marc-jacobs-605820-black

    They would look pretty cool.

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  20. I agree with Peonies and Polaroids - if the dress is long enough, just the toe will peek out under the dress hem when you walk. Which means that no one will even notice if the rest of the shoe is in a different style than the dress.

    There's so many things you won't get to wear again after your wedding day. Your shoes don't have to be one of them.

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  21. Yes! Black pumps or anything dressy that you might wear again!

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