Wednesday, February 10, 2010

My #1 piece of wedding planning/marriage/relationship advice


DON'T FORGET TO FUCK. Or, you know, make love.* Whatever you like to call it.

Yes, it's healthy to go to bed angry once in a while. But then you have to make up, you feel me? And you'll be amazed how those asinine fights melt away when you're both, um, satisfied, and you remember what you're doing together in the first place.

*I hate "make love." "Make love" makes me want to barf. But like I said, whatever you like to call it.

(The photo is of Hannah, obv. Incidentally, while surfing her blog, I landed on this bit of advice that anyone planning a wedding ought to read immediately.)
Posted by esb at 4:08 PM

24 comments:

  1. AnonymousFebruary 10, 2010 at 4:18 PM

    Ahaha yes.

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  2. BrittFebruary 10, 2010 at 4:34 PM

    YUP.

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  3. H.H.February 10, 2010 at 5:14 PM

    amen

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  4. CeliaFebruary 10, 2010 at 5:16 PM

    i don't think i could forget to do that if i tried.
    sans lingerie, THANK YOU VERY MUCH.

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  5. MichelleFebruary 10, 2010 at 5:49 PM

    from being in the married world for only a few months, I have already gotten a sense that talking about a husband and wife having sex seems more taboo then discussing a one night stand.

    i'm putting a billboard up in Times Square that reads:

    MARRIED PEOPLE FUCK. that's kind of the point.

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  6. AnonymousFebruary 10, 2010 at 5:58 PM

    Take advantage while you can, before you have babies (if you're planning to have babies, that is) :) The fucking is all so much easier before the little ones come along... although they really are worth it and of course you have your whole marriage to be getting busy. I'm just saying.

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  7. GiovannaFebruary 10, 2010 at 6:14 PM

    amen sister. and meg's totally right - it's ok to go to bed angry. i wish i would have read both of your posts earlier...i used to feel like a giant FAIL when we'd fight over something stupid and sleep in different rooms. but it happens, and it's not the end of the world.
    ps. anonymous, thanks for making me depressed. whatever, you anonymous debbie downer.

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  8. wool and miscFebruary 10, 2010 at 6:59 PM

    WORD!

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  9. miss fancy pants (the bride)February 10, 2010 at 7:09 PM

    Agreed! Especially since the best part of fighting is the making up. Or when you do it before you've even made up. Nothin' wrong with a little angry sex. Just sayin'.

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  10. anna and the ringFebruary 11, 2010 at 12:20 AM

    My boy is getting laid tonight! I am going to get me some!

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  11. Spare ThoughtsFebruary 11, 2010 at 12:22 AM

    Make love - bleugh. Sleeping on an argument tends to be a necessity as we do most of our arguing in bed before sleep. But sleepy make-up sex the next morning is gooood. Morning sex/late night sex/just got home from work sex can't decide which I like best.

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  12. Cate SFebruary 11, 2010 at 1:04 AM

    ESB, you are the best.

    And Anon, sheesh, can we not, for once, just have a conversation about married people fucking without someone getting all "take advantage while you can, before you have babies"? ARGH!

    (Oh, sorry, must be getting frustrated since I have a baby now and therefore never have sex. #sarcasm)

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  13. lizFebruary 11, 2010 at 7:18 AM

    and you say you don't like valentine's day.

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  14. hannah and landonFebruary 11, 2010 at 10:12 AM

    this is sage-like advice. thanks for sending a billion folks to read my gushy recounting of the wedding day, my hit counter has gone through the roof as a result! Your blog is super and lament the fact that I did not it at the time of nuptials (reading a wedding blog may have reminded me of certain necessary bridal things like a veil, or shoes). xo

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  15. noa (feather love photography)February 11, 2010 at 1:48 PM

    totes!

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  16. east side brideFebruary 11, 2010 at 1:50 PM

    hannah, are you kidding? when I first posted your wedding photos I thought they were vintage. (biggest compliment EVER.)

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  17. hannah and landonFebruary 11, 2010 at 4:02 PM

    hahaha it isssssss! (i apologize for my above comment as it is clearly missing necessary parts of sentence) i've added your blog to my reader so i can re-live those exciting three weeks of wedding planning (but mostly because you're very enjoyable to read!) xo

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  18. east side brideFebruary 11, 2010 at 4:09 PM

    ♥

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  19. noa (feather love photography)February 11, 2010 at 6:11 PM

    hannah your blog is so insanely bitchin', big time. it's just gorgeous.

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  20. LauraFebruary 11, 2010 at 6:59 PM

    Ha! You know, I love this blog. Sometimes I click here and you say something completely cranky and I think "I am too prematurely middle aged and altogether unhip to get this". And then you say something really smart in an incredibly basic way, and I'm like "oh yeah. THAT's why I come here". Now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to take my prematurely middle aged self offline and go try to get some. :-)

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  21. Jacqueline WeppnerFebruary 12, 2010 at 8:37 AM

    OMG i always love your posts. you crack me up. keep on keeping it real. xx -Merci

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  22. AnonymousFebruary 12, 2010 at 6:22 PM

    BEST wedding planning advice ever! I'm looking forward to "wedding planning" this weekend... and the rest of our lives! We'll never think of "wedding planning" the same again, and that is a good thing.

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  23. A Sunday Kind Of LoveFebruary 13, 2010 at 8:03 AM

    i hate the word "make love" and, to quote Liz Lemon, I only like the word 'lovers' "when it's between the words 'meat' and 'pizza'"
    :)

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  24. AshleyFebruary 14, 2010 at 9:22 PM

    haha so true! my mom told me i had "better put out" before we got married haha! but i agree that a healthy and happy sex life is a critical element.

    love that photo, too!

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